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Guest Post: The Trouble With Due Dates

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I asked a bunch of friends and family to write some guest posts for me so I’d have some good stuff to post, even if I was totally tired one day.

Jen G, the pastor’s wife and a really good friend of mine, agreed to help!

Jen has 3 boys, Sam, Levi, and Nate. They are super cute. I posted a picture of Jen in my “I Am Grateful” post, which you can check out here!

In her own words….

The Trouble With Due Dates

I think it’s interesting how the mind of a pregnant woman changes from conception to the 40th week.  When I first saw those two lines on the pregnancy test, I imagined myself becoming the serene, beautiful pregnant woman with the basketball shaped belly, the picture of femininity and good things to come.  But soon a realization came to me that brought with it a twinge of panic: this will inevitably end in labor and delivery.

How would my body do that?  Could I handle pain like that?  Would I lose control, yell at my husband, cry in front of strangers?  Would my body ever be the same?

For me, as the weeks of pregnancy moved along, things changed.  My body changed in ways that baffled me.  By the time I reached 38 weeks, my mind had changed, too.  I had prepared as much as I could, and I was ready to meet that sweet baby who had been squirming around inside of me for so long.  I couldn’t wait till I could hold him on the outside instead of the constant pressure and weight that having him on the inside was causing.

So, when my due date approached, I was ready.  Unfortunately, baby wasn’t.

He was due on July 3rd.  That day came and went with no baby.  So did the next, and the next.  We tried all the tricks:  spicy food, driving over bumpy roads, long walks, swimming.  (I did stop short at castor oil.)  I was hot and swollen.  Despite efforts to stay comfortable and distracted, I cried every day I was overdue.

Finally, one week after my due date, I had a contraction that I knew was real.  It was several hours before it was time to go to the birthing center and several hours after that before we met our son, but the waiting was finally over!

During my second pregnancy, I knew better:  Don’t take the “due date” too seriously.  This time I was due on April 3rd, but I would often warn myself, “more like April 10th”.

And this second sweet baby was also late – but only by 5 days this time!  I handled the lateness so much better with a more flexible mindset.

Only 20 months later I found myself again 9 months pregnant.  Number 3 was our little surprise, so we (and the doctors) weren’t certain of the date of conception and had to guess the due date based on measurements.  The funny thing is, all my babies were in the 9 pound range, so measuring big didn’t necessarily mean I would go into labor anytime sooner.  I prepared for a later-than-estimated due date of December 17th.

My husband, who works at a university, figured things were timed just right since finals would be over just before the baby arrived.  He had meetings scheduled right up to the day.  Why not, since I seemed to be a woman who had a longer than usual gestation period.  Funny thing is, I went into labor 6 days early.  This baby surprised us in more ways than one.

There’s nothing like that last month.  Knowing that an event will take place some time in the next 4-6 weeks that will change your life forever is sobering and thrilling.  Not having control over when it will happen can be maddening.

But the advice my midwife gave me is true:  that baby is gonna come out, some time in the next several days.  You can’t be pregnant forever!  And when my babies finally made their way into the world, all those questions from early in pregnancy were answered.  Yes, I could handle the pain.  Yes, I would lose control, but it would be ok.  No, my body will never be the same, and that’s ok, too.  At the risk of sounding cliche’, my babies were completely worth the wait.

Taken at 41 weeks, I was in early labor (obviously between contractions that were not too painful) at the birth center, about 12 hours before my first son was born.

Taken at 41 weeks, I was in early labor (obviously between contractions that were not too painful) at the birth center, about 12 hours before my first son was born.

My Products During Pregnancy

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Throughout this pregnancy, I have gotten lots of advice about which products to use for which ailments/symptoms.

I tried a lot of different things, and THESE are the ones that I really appreciated and used. If you’re just starting out, keep in mind that there are lots of options out there! These are just my preferences. 🙂

My least favorite thing in the world? Heartburn. I’d never had it until I got pregnant, and it is just awful.

tums

The second thing that kept me up at night was numb hands. One thing that actually helped was using wrist braces. It kept me aware of my wrist position, even if I was asleep.

Braces, Supports & Rehabilitation Products

In order to prevent stretch marks, a colleague gave me this product from Mama Mio. It’s really oily, but it feels great and smells nice. So far, no stretch marks! I’m around week 37, so I think I’m all good at this point!

mama mioYou can find the Mama Mio product at Yes Style!

Beauty Korean

Along the same lines, I have started to apply Lansinoh’s Lanolin to my boobs. It’s supposed to soothe and heal sore nipples after breastfeeding, but I’ve heard it can also help to toughen you up before you even start. So occasionally, I will use that just to get into the habit. 🙂

lansinoh

Throughout my pregnancy, you may have seen my workout posts. I did Crossfit throughout the whole thing. And I loved my Reebok Crossfit shoes. They were bright and colorful. And since Crossfit incorporates a lot of weightlifting, it’s important that the bottoms of the shoes are flat. If you’re trying to do squats, and you’re already on your toes a little (if the shoes have too much cushion), then you’re setting yourself up to fall forward. Reebok teamed up with CF to make a whole line of products. After I have the baby, I’ll stock up on some CF gear!

Here’s a picture of me, wearing my Reebok CF shoes. And then there’s a link where you can get some, too. 🙂

Picking up barbell

 

Those were the main things that kept me happy and sane!

What were your favorite pregnancy products?

Waiting

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Sure, for 8 months, you’re waiting to make it to the delivery date. But there’s something about the last month. The waiting in the last month is way different. It seems like, a week ago, I was 38 weeks. But I’m only now 38 weeks and 2 days.

Saturday night was rough! I don’t think it’s insomnia because I think that insomnia means you just can’t get to sleep, and it isn’t necessarily tied to any physical thing.

I guess my mind is wandering more nowadays. Basically here is what happened:

12:30am

I got super sleepy and decided to finally go to bed. I figured I’d do okay in the bedroom because I was very tired. But my legs were restless, so I went to the couch after about 10 minutes.

After some tossing and turning, I must have fallen asleep a little. My right ribs were aching because the baby is camped out on that side.

4:00am

I woke up and went to the kitchen to find out the time. I heard birds chirping outside, so I thought it might be closer to 5:30. I was really, extra disoriented. I was stumbling all over the place. Finally I made my way to the bedroom. Of course I woke up poor Cameron.

5:00am

Woke up, checked phone for time… Sigh. Having a contraction woke me up. I flipped over, which woke up Cameron again.

6:00am

“Please, let it be 8:00 so I can just get up.” Still so early for a Saturday, and I hadn’t gotten much sleep at all. Another contraction plus aching ribs. And I had to pee….

Must have fallen back to sleep a little….

7:07am

Checked time again. I thought maybe Cameron was out of bed, so that meant I could start to stir, but he was still asleep so I tried to stay really still and go back to sleep. Tossed and turned and passed out for a little bit longer.

8:14am

Woke up and just lay there. I could smell bacon coming from the kitchen. So I hopped on up and out of bed.

 Photo on 5-25-13 at 10.03 PM

It was rough! My eye has been twitching since then. I need a good nap. Is that even possible anymore?

Why do people decide to get pregnant more than once?? Babies must be seriously awesome.

Guest Post: Pregnant for the 2nd Time!

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Meet Jayme: 

She blogs over at Young Mum’s Guide to Survival. Here is a link to her blog! You should definitely go check her out! Jayme (Jay for short) has one toddler (an adorable little boy) and is about 8 weeks from delivering her second baby, a little girl.

I asked Jay to tell me….What’s been different for you in your second pregnancy compared to your first? And, to my surprise, there was a TON that was different for her. In her own words…..

How My Second Pregnancy Compared to My First

Have you ever woken up after what should have been a brilliant 9 hour sleep and felt absolutely exhausted? Welcome to my life!

I am 22yo, 32 weeks pregnant and I have a 16 1/2 month old son who I swear some days is going on 10!

My husband and I had planned on waiting until our son, Toby, was around 2 before we would start trying for our second child, but sometimes life has other plans and I fell pregnant when Toby was just 11 months old!

My first pregnancy had been one of those beautiful pregnancies that you read about in books and say “they must be lying, it’s nothing like that”! I had none of those pregnancy symptoms! No morning sickness, no sore breasts, no loss of energy; instead I ended up being admitted to hospital 3 times! The first 2 were with what they called silent migraines that were causing me to have hand tremors and passing out at random times, which put me as high risk and made me give up working to go on maternity leave when I was 19 weeks.

The last time I was admitted was at 34 weeks due to intense hip and pelvic pain due to my having an odd shaped pelvis, they booked me in for a c section on my due date.

I ended up being induced on my due date and had a natural birth.

My cravings were all savory and I lived on steamed potato, sweet potato and pumpkin smothered in salt and butter, Mcdonald’s breakfast, and oven-cooked fish and chips with salt and sour cream!

I also knew I was having a little boy from the day I found out I was pregnant. It was just a feeling I had and it was confirmed at our 19 week scan.

This time around has been a complete shock to my system!

I am exhausted, my breasts are sore and have grown from a B cup up to a D cup, I have more pimples than a teenager and the morning sickness left for about a month and is now back again!

I have every pregnancy symptom in the book and I now understand how unglamorous pregnancy can truly be, not to mention adding a toddler into the mix!

Apart from all those things, I have cruised through this pregnancy easily, I am low risk, and I feel that I barely see the midwives compared to my last pregnancy.

My cravings this time around have been all sweet! I live on timtam’s, lime cordial, chocolate and apricot chicken!

From the very start I knew that this pregnancy was different, and I was fairly certain that we were having a little girl this time around but I wasn’t 100% sure; maybe it was the fact that I wanted one of each so bad that I didn’t want to get my hopes up.

Once again at my 19 week scan my feelings were confirmed and we are expecting a little girl due on the 16th of July.

Pregnancy is a lot more tiring the second time around now that I have to run around after a toddler, and I was working up until I was 30 weeks, but when I think about it I am one of those lucky mums that has a toddler that has slept between 7-12 hours since he was 3 months old!

NOTE: I had no idea what timtam’s OR lime cordial were. Here is a picture of each:

 

 

Check out Jayme’s blog, especially if you’re also in the “mom blog” category!

 

Blog Button Design Battle Round 3!

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Welcome to Round 3 of the Blog Button Design Battle with Peacoats & Plaid. Want to know who won Round 2? Drum roll please…

Congrats to Kalyn from Love, Laughter, Happily Ever After! Kalyn’s winning button design:
 

The runner-up spot goes to Amberly from Life with Amberly & Joe.


This week’s participants include:

Samantha from Designer in Teal

Jess from Plucky’s Second Thought

Petro from The Seaman Mom

Diana from DD Kimball Road

Danysia from That L.A. it Girl

Bethany from Before, During, and After

JMc from Running on Empty

Ashley from Him & Her

Danavee from This Vintage Grove

Kristin from Hopelessly Ever After

Vote for your favorite and most eye-catching button by clicking on the thumbnail below. Make sure you’re voting solely on eye appeal. You can only vote once, so make it count.



Check back next week for Round 4. If you’re interested in participating in Season 2 of the Blog Button Design Battle, make sure you subscribe to Peacoats & Plaid for updates.

Sale this week at Zulily.com!

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Zulily is an online shop for the whole family. It’s got some really cute kids’ stuff AND some really cute maternity clothes. They have some great sales going on this weekend that I wanted to share! Here are a few links you can use to access particular parts of the site. And the sales are listed below!

Let me just say… a friend of mine at church got her daughter an AWESOME unicorn hat from zulily. It’s super cute; I really wanted one.

Zulily’s main page

Shop for maternity clothes here!

Shop for little boys here and little girls here!

Sunday, May 26th

  • Summer Dresses: $9.99 and Swimwear: $14.99 & Under
  • Summer Kids Sandals: Under $9.99
  • Summer Maternity: $19.99 & Under
  • Prints A-Plenty: Plus-Size Apparel – from $9.99
  • Sweet Potatoes – up to 70% off
  • Royal Baby by Royal Gem Clothing – Up to 60%

 …and many more! Monday, May 27th–Memorial Day Blowout Sale

  • HUGE Sale in Girls’, Boys’, Home, Women’s and more!

 Tuesday, May 28th

  • Fergalicious by Fergie – up to 65% off
  • Mia Bossi & dapperbag – up to 50% off
  • Leveret – from $8.99
  • HOTmilk – up to 70% off
  • College Boys – up to 70% off
  • Plus-size apparel – up to 60% off
  • Sweaty Bands – from $9.99

 …and many more! Wednesday, May 29th

  • Jelly the Pug: Boys
  • Birkenstock sale
  • JoJo Maman Bébé- Up to 40% off Maternity and Kids Styles
  • Desigual- Women’s Styles up to 50% off

…and many more! Thursday, May 30th

  • SPANX sale
  • David & Goliath
  • patycake kids – up to 45% off

 …and many more! Friday, May 31st

  • Cherry Stix- Kids Clothing
  • 66 North- Weather-battling Apparel
  • Lotus Bumz – from $9.99

 …and many more!

I love finding a great deal and zulily.com is an amazing online boutique for the entire family! This week through 5/31, zulily will offer great sales like Summer Swimwear: $14.99 & Under, Fergalicious by Fergie – up to 65% off, Mia Bossi & dapperbag – up to 50% off and many more! Only members can shop zulily events, but membership is free and signing up is quick and easy. Don’t miss your chance to shop today!

Happies and Crappies! and InstaFriday

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Linking up with Stephanie for Happies and Crappies and Jeannett for InstaFriday!

Happies (The Good Stuff From This Week, in Pics)

1. I got a surge of energy this week. I’m not sure if that’s normal, and, despite feeling really tired, I felt like I moved quicker. It COULD be because the baby dropped last week, and I’m able to breathe better. OR I’m just starting to get pumped that he’s almost OUTTA me.

Me in elevator2. My mama sent me this sweet text 😀

Mama text3. The class awards celebration went really well. Every year, I give specific awards to my students. We did that this past Monday. Here are a few of the awards that go out: Sunglasses at Night, Cup of Coffee, and Calculator Queen. I asked some kids to bring in snacks for their particular class, and I brought in some Trader Joe’s cookies. One girl decided to spell my name in cookies….

King in Cookies4. My littlest brother, Wesley, is 19 and just finished his first year of college. He’s always been… awkward. I mean, an awkward teen, you know? On Thursday, I called my mom’s cell phone, and Wesley answered. We ended up chatting for half an hour! It was delightful. We talked like normal grownups. I took this picture while I was walking around, talking on the phone with him.

Reflection in store window5. My dad called me, trying to figure out how to make a picture slideshow on my mom’s iPad. They wanted to use it for the baby shower last Sunday. I just think this is funny… my dad does NOT know how to do FaceTime. I’ve tried and tried to explain that you hold the phone in front of your face. He always holds it like this:

Dad Facetime6. Cameron and I went out to dinner for, potentially, the last time before the baby’s born. No, we didn’t get spicy food… I don’t like spicy. And I don’t think that works anyway (at inducing labor!). Here are some pictures from our last date night!

7. I got a pedicure and an eyebrow wax!

pedicure8. I ordered some business cards…for my blog. I know, I know. I’m not “there” yet. BUT there’ve been many times when I told someone “Yea I actually have a blog!” And then I tell them the link, but they don’t write it down. So it’s just a dead convo. So I figure, if I give them a card with the web address and my social media stuff, they might actually check it out!

Business cards

Crappies (The Bad Stuff From This Week)

1. I didn’t take any crappy pictures this week.

2. My students are Driving. Me. Crazy. I know that it’s the time of year for it. Here in DC, school goes until June 21. Because I’m just about due, I’m working until May 31 (next Friday). But there’s always the chance I have the baby before then. So, to be safe, I am going ahead and giving my final exam next week. All this week, I spent time and energy to do a really thorough Final Exam Review for them. Each class, I left 20 minutes at the end (sometimes more, depending on the class makeup) for them to ask me questions, complete the day’s review, or work on their exam notecard. What happened instead? The A/B students worked, and the rest of them (the ones who actually NEED the review) just screwed around, chatting and hanging out. At this point in the year, I’m just not going to BEG you to review for YOUR final exam. It just irritated me.

3. Another work crappy: I told them all that I have just a matter of days left. And if they needed to make up any tests or projects or anything at all, they should do it as soon as possible. There are some of them who keep saying, “Okay I’ll be by at lunch” and then don’t show up. I just know, KNOW, that next Thursday, I’m going to have 10 kids show up at lunch to do makeup work. And I’ll have to grade it and calculate averages and all of that, right before my last day. Sooo frustrating.

4. The weather was so gross this week! We had one or two nice, warm days. And the rest was either muggy and rainy OR, like today, cold. Are you kidding me? Yesterday it was 80s. And today, I needed a big jacket (which I didn’t have, so I was just cold all day).

5. The baby is all up on my right side, and it’s killing my ribs. It was mostly hurting at night, when I tried sleeping on my right side. But now it hurts during the day. When I take a deep breath, my right rib cage (is that proper biology terminology?) aches.

6. I haven’t been able to hear this whole week. I’ve had a cold (can’t breathe, coughing, etc), and now I can’t hear. My right ear seems to be more clogged, but this morning, the left one stopped up too. I don’t know what to do!

So it seems I have more Good than Bad again. That’s good, right? Hopefully the next time I post, it’ll be as a MAMA. Woop woop.

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