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Guest Post: The Trouble With Due Dates

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I asked a bunch of friends and family to write some guest posts for me so I’d have some good stuff to post, even if I was totally tired one day.

Jen G, the pastor’s wife and a really good friend of mine, agreed to help!

Jen has 3 boys, Sam, Levi, and Nate. They are super cute. I posted a picture of Jen in my “I Am Grateful” post, which you can check out here!

In her own words….

The Trouble With Due Dates

I think it’s interesting how the mind of a pregnant woman changes from conception to the 40th week.  When I first saw those two lines on the pregnancy test, I imagined myself becoming the serene, beautiful pregnant woman with the basketball shaped belly, the picture of femininity and good things to come.  But soon a realization came to me that brought with it a twinge of panic: this will inevitably end in labor and delivery.

How would my body do that?  Could I handle pain like that?  Would I lose control, yell at my husband, cry in front of strangers?  Would my body ever be the same?

For me, as the weeks of pregnancy moved along, things changed.  My body changed in ways that baffled me.  By the time I reached 38 weeks, my mind had changed, too.  I had prepared as much as I could, and I was ready to meet that sweet baby who had been squirming around inside of me for so long.  I couldn’t wait till I could hold him on the outside instead of the constant pressure and weight that having him on the inside was causing.

So, when my due date approached, I was ready.  Unfortunately, baby wasn’t.

He was due on July 3rd.  That day came and went with no baby.  So did the next, and the next.  We tried all the tricks:  spicy food, driving over bumpy roads, long walks, swimming.  (I did stop short at castor oil.)  I was hot and swollen.  Despite efforts to stay comfortable and distracted, I cried every day I was overdue.

Finally, one week after my due date, I had a contraction that I knew was real.  It was several hours before it was time to go to the birthing center and several hours after that before we met our son, but the waiting was finally over!

During my second pregnancy, I knew better:  Don’t take the “due date” too seriously.  This time I was due on April 3rd, but I would often warn myself, “more like April 10th”.

And this second sweet baby was also late – but only by 5 days this time!  I handled the lateness so much better with a more flexible mindset.

Only 20 months later I found myself again 9 months pregnant.  Number 3 was our little surprise, so we (and the doctors) weren’t certain of the date of conception and had to guess the due date based on measurements.  The funny thing is, all my babies were in the 9 pound range, so measuring big didn’t necessarily mean I would go into labor anytime sooner.  I prepared for a later-than-estimated due date of December 17th.

My husband, who works at a university, figured things were timed just right since finals would be over just before the baby arrived.  He had meetings scheduled right up to the day.  Why not, since I seemed to be a woman who had a longer than usual gestation period.  Funny thing is, I went into labor 6 days early.  This baby surprised us in more ways than one.

There’s nothing like that last month.  Knowing that an event will take place some time in the next 4-6 weeks that will change your life forever is sobering and thrilling.  Not having control over when it will happen can be maddening.

But the advice my midwife gave me is true:  that baby is gonna come out, some time in the next several days.  You can’t be pregnant forever!  And when my babies finally made their way into the world, all those questions from early in pregnancy were answered.  Yes, I could handle the pain.  Yes, I would lose control, but it would be ok.  No, my body will never be the same, and that’s ok, too.  At the risk of sounding cliche’, my babies were completely worth the wait.

Taken at 41 weeks, I was in early labor (obviously between contractions that were not too painful) at the birth center, about 12 hours before my first son was born.

Taken at 41 weeks, I was in early labor (obviously between contractions that were not too painful) at the birth center, about 12 hours before my first son was born.

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Guest Post: Pregnant for the 2nd Time!

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Meet Jayme: 

She blogs over at Young Mum’s Guide to Survival. Here is a link to her blog! You should definitely go check her out! Jayme (Jay for short) has one toddler (an adorable little boy) and is about 8 weeks from delivering her second baby, a little girl.

I asked Jay to tell me….What’s been different for you in your second pregnancy compared to your first? And, to my surprise, there was a TON that was different for her. In her own words…..

How My Second Pregnancy Compared to My First

Have you ever woken up after what should have been a brilliant 9 hour sleep and felt absolutely exhausted? Welcome to my life!

I am 22yo, 32 weeks pregnant and I have a 16 1/2 month old son who I swear some days is going on 10!

My husband and I had planned on waiting until our son, Toby, was around 2 before we would start trying for our second child, but sometimes life has other plans and I fell pregnant when Toby was just 11 months old!

My first pregnancy had been one of those beautiful pregnancies that you read about in books and say “they must be lying, it’s nothing like that”! I had none of those pregnancy symptoms! No morning sickness, no sore breasts, no loss of energy; instead I ended up being admitted to hospital 3 times! The first 2 were with what they called silent migraines that were causing me to have hand tremors and passing out at random times, which put me as high risk and made me give up working to go on maternity leave when I was 19 weeks.

The last time I was admitted was at 34 weeks due to intense hip and pelvic pain due to my having an odd shaped pelvis, they booked me in for a c section on my due date.

I ended up being induced on my due date and had a natural birth.

My cravings were all savory and I lived on steamed potato, sweet potato and pumpkin smothered in salt and butter, Mcdonald’s breakfast, and oven-cooked fish and chips with salt and sour cream!

I also knew I was having a little boy from the day I found out I was pregnant. It was just a feeling I had and it was confirmed at our 19 week scan.

This time around has been a complete shock to my system!

I am exhausted, my breasts are sore and have grown from a B cup up to a D cup, I have more pimples than a teenager and the morning sickness left for about a month and is now back again!

I have every pregnancy symptom in the book and I now understand how unglamorous pregnancy can truly be, not to mention adding a toddler into the mix!

Apart from all those things, I have cruised through this pregnancy easily, I am low risk, and I feel that I barely see the midwives compared to my last pregnancy.

My cravings this time around have been all sweet! I live on timtam’s, lime cordial, chocolate and apricot chicken!

From the very start I knew that this pregnancy was different, and I was fairly certain that we were having a little girl this time around but I wasn’t 100% sure; maybe it was the fact that I wanted one of each so bad that I didn’t want to get my hopes up.

Once again at my 19 week scan my feelings were confirmed and we are expecting a little girl due on the 16th of July.

Pregnancy is a lot more tiring the second time around now that I have to run around after a toddler, and I was working up until I was 30 weeks, but when I think about it I am one of those lucky mums that has a toddler that has slept between 7-12 hours since he was 3 months old!

NOTE: I had no idea what timtam’s OR lime cordial were. Here is a picture of each:

 

 

Check out Jayme’s blog, especially if you’re also in the “mom blog” category!

 

I Am Grateful

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This has not been a rough pregnancy. I have heard stories about vomit in the shower, not being able to eat your favorite foods, aching lower backs, and more. But overall, it’s been a fairly easy pregnancy; I’m just a whiner. 🙂

Along the way, there have been some people who have really made a difference and made my life more enjoyable.

These are the wonderful people I want to thank before “everything changes”.

1. My husband, Cameron

I’ve complained since September about all the aches and pains and body image issues. But he has been there, supporting, loving, and praising me. Even though I don’t always believe him, he never fails to tell me I’m beautiful every day and that he loves me every day. I can be pretty grumpy and needy, but he hasn’t let it get to him.

We’ve grown SO much closer since I got pregnant. He’s going to be a fantastic dad, and it’s pretty cool to see him get so excited about it.

2. My mom and dad

I talk to my mom every few days, and my dad and I keep in touch via text more than anything. My mom has been really happy and excited this whole time, and when I’m feeling down about something, she’s always been a support. My dad plays the role of silly father, and it cracks me up. If anyone else said I was getting “plump” since I’m pregnant, I’d be offended. But for some reason, coming from him, it’s just hilarious and instead, brightens my mood.

PART B:

There are other family members who’ve been really great!

I’m thankful to my Aunt Deena and Grammy (both on my mom’s side) who bought our crib.
I’m thankful for my brothers.
I’m thankful for my cousin Amy who has been really excited for me this whole time.
I’m thankful for my cousins Gwen, Kim, and Fran (on my dad’s side) who popped up on Facebook and have been showering me with love!
I’m thankful for Cameron’s mom Laura, who has been so sweet online and also sent a delightful care package for the baby!
Cameron’s extended family, Grandma Kay, Nanny Sue, Aunt Kay, cousin Roxie, and Sandra, who’ve been really supportive, either with care packages or just kind words!

3. My personal trainer (and friend), Chris S

I hope he doesn’t mind that I posted THIS particular picture of him. I only have two pictures to choose from!

Chris has been really supportive from the beginning. I was doing Crossfit with Cameron for about 4 months, with Chris and some other coaches. When I got pregnant, I told Chris about it, and immediately, he wanted to work with me. He’d worked with pregnant women before, so I knew he was someone I could trust. I took a brief hiatus because I was exhausted and nauseous a lot. When I came back, we started working out together on a regular basis. He always pushes me to go a little further and lift a little more (without raising my heart rate or getting overheated, of course!). He also recognizes if I’ve had a bad day and either (a) tries to cheer me up or (b) knows to just let me be. He has been the main reason I’ve stayed one of those “only pregnant in the belly” women.

Here’s a post where I talk about doing Crossfit while pregnant! And here’s my most recent workout.

4. Crosswalk Kids (aka Jen G)

That’s a picture of our pastor and his wife, Jen. She is the coordinator of the kids’ ministry at our church. (Technically, our church has 7 locations, so she’s the coordinator at our particular location.) I serve as the “greeter”, which means I welcome all of the kids and parents every Sunday morning, get everyone checked in, pass out name tags, and that sort of thing. Jen does a little bit of everything. On top of that, she’s a great mom to 3 awesome little boys. And she’s become a really good friend of mine over the past year.

Right when I became pregnant, she was one of the first people I told (before I even got it confirmed by the doctor). She has been so helpful and supportive throughout this journey. From a few hand-me-downs from her own children to helping with the baby shower, she has been an invaluable part of my life the past 8 months.

PART B:

There are some other folks involved with CWK that I’d like to mention.

Bethany (aka B3), who has helped me take my mind off being pregnant every Sunday with her silly stories.
All the teachers who have been so sweet with their words: Hannah, Becca, Catherine, Chenoa, Carissa, Kathryn, Rachel, Ian, Kara, and I just know I’m leaving someone out.
All the moms! I don’t even know everyone’s name (I know all the kids’ names because those are on the name tags!). Lori, Diedre, Eun, Karen, and all the other moms (and a few dads 🙂 ) who ask how I’m feeling and tell me I look great every week. I don’t usually believe those comments, but it is nice to hear them on a regular basis!

5. My coworkers

Here’s our Math department (on Pi Day this year)! That’s Yufanyi, Kim, Susan, me, and Shanna (the chair). These ladies have been supportive in a very practical way this year. There’ve been days when I just couldn’t make it. I either needed to stay home or leave early, and they were all there to help out. Someone would make my copies, cover my classes, or just make sure I was okay at home. Either way, I knew that I was covered. It also helps to get rides home when I’m just too tired to walk and don’t feel like waiting for the bus!

It was refreshing to know that my classroom wasn’t going to go haywire because I wasn’t there: I have a great team of support to help out and back me up as needed. That’s great any time but especially when you’re pregnant! It doesn’t hurt that Susan has 5 children of her own, and Shanna has 3, so they are also great resources in that respect!

PART B:

There are some coworkers that aren’t pictured who have been amazing.

Katy, who always tells me stories about her kids and asks how I’m doing every day.
Mr Bennett, who says “How Y’ALL doing?” every day.
Tina, who I think may be more excited than I am about having this baby. She also helped out tremendously with the baby shower (with Jen, above).
Barb, who was one of the first to empathize with my more mellow reaction to being pregnant.
Grace, who came back late this year after having her first child. She’s given me loads of insight and also some sweet pillows. 🙂
To all you guys and everyone else, THANK YOU for your support! It really has meant so much.

6. New mom, Sophia/Best friend

This is Sophia and her husband Ty. She just had her baby in March. She was in my wedding, and before that, we were in grad school together in NYC (and we were roommates there). She’s hilarious, and I was so surprised back around September when she told me she was expecting! I was thrilled because Cameron and I were just about to find out we, too, were expecting. Since she was 3 months ahead of me, it was so great talking to her on the phone from time to time. I had questions, she had answers. It was fun to dish about pregnancy with a close friend. And now that she has a little one (and we’re almost there), I know she’ll be honest with me about the realities of having a newborn.

7. Expecting mom, Mary/Best friend

Another best friend of mine who was also in my wedding, Mary was my college roommate back in Louisiana. For a while, she was living in Georgia with her husband Payton. Then, around October, she told me that she, too, was pregnant! And then, better news, they moved up here to Washington DC in January. While we don’t see each other ALL that often, we’ve hung out several times. And it’s fun to chat about pregnancy stuff, honestly. It’s not always a treat to discuss it with friends who aren’t pregnant (or even married). But when I know that Mary is going through the same sorts of things, it’s kind of fun. And now, I can be her Sophia since I’m a month ahead!

Mary has a calming presence, so whenever we’re together, I feel like everything’s going to be okay.

8. My circles of friends

PART A: Church

Thanks to my smaller small group: Claire, Emma, Rachel, and Brooke. These ladies have been really supportive in the short time I’ve known them. Brooke is also expecting (about 3 months behind me!).
Thanks to Heidi, the leader of the big small group. She is a constant smiling face and is a really great mentor to all the girls in our humongous group.
Helen (and Jesse) helped tremendously with putting together the crib and organizing baby clothes!
The hospitality girls are perfect for brightening my Sundays: Katy, Paige, Jessica, Hope, Jinna, Gia…

PART B: Crossfit

There are other coaches at the gym besides Chris. For example, here’s Stephanie (Chris’ better half) and Sara. These two, along with Tom and Julia, have been great at keeping me motivated and helping me to stay strong.

Additionally, I’ve really come to appreciate Erica, Adrian, Devon, Kelly, Katie, and Lizzie (who’s also expecting). Adrian always smiles and tells me how cute my bump is. Erica is the most encouraging, uplifting person EVER. And everyone else has just been great. I was self-conscious at first about showing up and taking up so much time from Chris, but I’ve really felt supported there.

PART C: Craigslist

My Craigslist friend is Elena. We found each other on Craigslist about two years ago! I posted something about looking for friends in the area, and she had posted something similar. So we started hanging out from time to time. Then she found out she was pregnant, and last February (2012), she had her son Ian. We have kept in touch for a while now, and she’s been another support in my life if I have pregnancy or baby questions.

9. My students

I can’t post any pictures of my students since they’re minors, and I’d probably need written permission from all 130 of their parents!

But I’ll say that my students have been really great. Of course, they don’t always have a lot of tact (“Ooo, she gettin’ big!” or “You look REAL pregnant today!”), but mostly, they ask lots of questions. How much longer? Is it a boy or a girl? Do you have a name (generally followed by, “If it’s a boy/girl, you should name him insert student’s name)? They are often brutally honest, so when someone says “You’re big up front, but you still look gooood”, I believe it. And don’t think I’ve forgotten that having 130 teenagers every year for the past 4 years here in DC has given me a nice collection of  about 500 potential babysitters!

10. The rest of ’em

There are a few folks who I’ll just group together 🙂

Shea, my former eye doctor and current neighbor, is also a new mom. Her baby was born in May (just last week!) of this year. We would bump (hehe) into each other from time to time, and it was fun to see each other grow. We talked about the weird things happening to us and what sort of stroller to get. It was fun knowing that she’s just a few floors down. It’s also great to know that she and her husband are probably going to move out of their larger apartment some time in the next year or two, so Cameron and I can check that out when the time comes!

Facebook friends! I have lots of FB friends, folks from high school and elementary school, some former students, Cameron’s family, and a lot in between. I have been trying NOT to post too much baby stuff on Facebook (I’m not sure what the percentage is, but I think that my posts are about 20% baby or pregnancy-related). The feedback is so kind! There are way too many nice comments and likes for me to really thank everyone individually. I hope that I did a good enough job of thanking you along the way.

The next phase of life is near! And I’m afraid that if I hadn’t written this post beforehand, it never would have happened. It has been a wild ride, but I do hope that I look back with fond memories. There were good times and bad, just like with anything. And soon enough, it’ll all be worth it.

Crossfit Workout 37 Weeks Pregnant

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Date: Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Location: Washington DC, Crossfit Affiliate
Trainer: Chris, as always
Photographer: Cameron, my hubby

Picture of the gym

Warmup

Inchworms

Inchworms: Start standing. Touch your toes (or get as close as possible) then inch your hands forward as far as you can go. Then walk your feet in toward your hands. Repeat over and over.

Ring rows 2

Ring Rows: Hold onto the rings. Lean backward, keeping your body straight. Pull yourself upward using only your upper body.

Pull apart rings

Ring Pull-Aparts: Start in the same position as ring rows. Pull your arms apart. [This was my first time doing these. They are way more tough than they look!]

Pushups: I do regular “boy” pushups. I can’t go all the way to the ground though! The belly gets in the way.

Squats against the wall

Wall Squats A: Standing with your back against the wall, carefully squat, going a little further each time.

Squats facing the wall

Wall Squats B: Standing facing the wall, carefully squat and keep your body as close to the wall as you can!

Workout

For three rounds…..

12 Spin-Arounds: Chris just  made these up. Holding a weight plate, I sat on the box and had to use my core/lower body to spin around from one side to the other.

4 Prenatal Burpees: A single burpee consists of 1 pushup, 1 squat, 1 step-up (weighted) with left leg, and 1 step-up with right leg.

12 Dumbbell Curl + Press: Starting with the dumbbell at your side, curl it up to shoulder, then press it overhead. I did 6 per side.

Altogether, I took about 13 minutes to complete the Workout portion.

Workout of the Day! (Beast Mode)

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Today was TOUGH!

First, if you’re interested, here’s the basic workout in a video format. Cameron filmed it on his iPhone (let me just say: he’s a professional video guy who would have used nice equipment and set up tripods and all that, but I just wanted a quick video for my little ole blog). I edited it together in iMovie, which I have never used before tonight. 🙂

Needless to say, it is my masterpiece, and I expect nothing less than honest feedback!

Second, below the video, is the workout in TEXT if you can’t watch the video (or just don’t want to).

Crossfit Pregnancy Workout 4/20/13 from Bethany King on Vimeo.

 

Today’s Workout

After a short warmup, we got going on some weights. I practiced Good Mornings with a 15-pound bar.

Good Mornings: Hold the bar right at your shoulders, behind the neck, push your hips backward, and lean forward until your knees bend a little. It isn’t a full squat. It’s similar to “hips-to-wall” but with weight.

I started with the bar and worked my way up to about 70 pounds. The plates were in kilograms, so I’m not entirely sure. It was comfortable, though, so don’t worry!

We followed that with step-ups onto a small box, using the same weight.

After some strength training, we moved into the conditioning part of the workout:

Rope Climbs (RC) and Pushups

Rep Scheme: Going back and forth between RC and Pushups, I completed 5, 4, 3, 2, then 1 rope climbs, and I completed 2, 4, 6, 8, then 10 pushups.

The baby was into the workout today; he was moving around, and then he was pretty active right afterwards.

Note: People tend to freak out with the heavy weight, but honestly, as long as you aren’t struggling, you are fine. My heart rate stayed low. I didn’t get overheated. And if you feel baby movement within the following half hour, you should be good to go! So, all is well with me and the kid.

And I’m going to be super strong after he’s out because those Good Mornings, for example, were REALLY my “regular” body weight plus 110 pounds. Take that, baby weight!

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